Boost Self-Esteem Without Positive Affirmations ✨

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Today, we’re going to talk about what you can do to improve your self-esteem even if you hate positive affirmations. For me, and for many of my clients, it never works to just replace the negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
The first step is to question all of this negative self-talk.
Instead of trying to say something super duper positive, shift to more neutral language.
OK, #3, let’s get clear on the person you want to be so you can know if you’re building up a good, purposeful life.
4. Pay attention to the small wins
And you’re going to pay attention to small wins, when you make a tiny bit of improvement or make a good choice- you are going to celebrate that. And I don’t mean just thinking a nice thought about what you did. Make it strong! Say it out loud and write it down, tell other people.
By using these four steps, you can improve your self-esteem, even if you hate positive affirmations.

00:00 Intro
00:30 Nutshell
02:30 Let's Question the Narrative
04:21 Shift to Neutral Language
06:47 Acknowledge your progress/growth
10:49 Pay attention to the small wins
11:45 Replace Judgment with Compassion
15:54 Summary

Read the transcript below:
https://therapyinanutshell.com/self-esteem/

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In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction.
And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe

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