What to Text When He DOESN'T Text Back

Hate being left on read? You’re not alone. Here’s what you need to text him when he doesn’t text you back…

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First off, when a guy doesn’t text you back, don’t panic. A guy not texting you back isn’t the end of the world, or even the end of your flirtation, necessarily. The truth is that people often just get busy, don’t see a message and then forget to respond.

You need to know that everyone has a different relationship with their phone. Some people actually leave them in the other room and forget to check them for hours. Some people get anxious when they haven’t responded to a text right away so they opt to just never respond at all. I think we all have that friend who is horrible at texting back. We know that this doesn’t mean they like us any less, so why do we fall apart when it comes to men acting the same way?

That said, I think you’ll agree that it’s very rare that we actually “don’t see” a text, especially when it’s from someone we’re genuinely interested in. This can mean that he’s really just not that into you… just yet. If this is a guy you’ve been out with a few times and you can’t get him to respond to a message then I’d take it as a pretty clear signal to move on. But if it’s a guy you only met in passing who you’ve failed to really connect with, don’t lose hope just yet. You’re going to have to put in a little effort to win his attention at first but once he’s realized this, things can only improve from there.

Another important question is: did your message actually warrant a response? If it was a direct question then, of course, him not texting you back is more significant. But if not, then chances are he isn’t even aware that you think he’s left you on read. The same is true of something like “hey” or “what’s up?”. These kinds of messages are just generally forgettable, especially if he doesn’t know you that well.

So here are the situations where you don’t need to worry that he didn’t text you back:

1. It’s been less than 24 hours
2. Your message wasn’t a direction question or doesn’t require a response
3. You know he’s super busy with something important

But if none of these apply, then chances are he’s either truly not interested, or trying to send you the message that he’s not interested, which is probably worse.

Here are a few things you shouldn’t do when he leaves you on read:

Obsess for hours about the perfect message to send that will make him respond.
Ask why he hasn’t returned your message.
Send him a single question mark.
Post something cryptic on social media.
Lash out at him in anger.
Contact his friends
Block him
Or seek out a witch online to put a love spell on him.

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