Dr. Becky Kennedy on the Top Parenting Mistake That Undermines Children's Confidence

Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of Good Inside, a global parenting and mental health platform. Named the “Millennial Parent Whisperer” by Time, Dr. Becky is known for her compassionate, practical approach to raising emotionally healthy children while maintaining strong, sturdy leadership as a parent. In this eye-opening conversation, Jay and Dr. Becky explore why modern parenting often swings between dismissing children’s emotions and letting them call the shots, sharing practical ways to find the balance in between. Dr. Becky shares why parenting is a skill you can actually learn, the surprising power of repairing after conflict, and how boundaries and validation work together to help kids feel safe, understood, and supported. Dr. Becky shares how to shift your mindset from “my kid is giving me a hard time” to “my kid is having a hard time,” creating a more compassionate approach to conflict and connection. She explains why constantly optimizing for happiness for your kids can actually create anxiety later in life, why letting kids struggle is key to building resilience, and how to release the heavy burden of “mom guilt” by recognizing which emotions are yours to carry and which belong to your child. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to Repair After Rupture and Strengthen Connection How to Set Boundaries Without Power Struggles How to Validate Feelings Without Over-Coddling How to Build Capable and Resilient Kids Why Not All “Mom Guilt” is Actually Guilt How to Balance Empathy with Leadership as a Parent Parenting isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about showing up, repairing when things go wrong, and modeling the emotional skills you want your children to have. As Dr. Becky reminds us, the most powerful thing you can give your kids is the confidence to face life’s challenges knowing they are both safe and valid. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:49 Should Kids Dictate Parenting Styles? 06:03 Building Tolerance As A Skill 10:43 How To Overcome Mom Guilt 18:27 Becoming a Mom Shouldn't Be Endured Alone 21:50 What is the Best Parenting Strategy? 29:30 The First Step Of Repair 34:18 How to Reconcile with Your Kid 36:54 How to Reconcile with Your Kid 39:17 Your Kid is Just Having a Hard Time 42:04 The Myth Of Always Being Available 44:30 How Do You Set a True Boundary? 48:36 The Communication Skills Every Parent Needs 52:34 What is Your Job As A Parent? 56:48 Your Kid’s Feelings Are Valid 59:12 How Boundaries & Validation Make for Resilient Adults 01:00:40 Should you be Optimizing for Happiness In Childhood? 01:09:45 The Power of Patience & Time 01:12:56 Teaching Kids How To Build Tolerance 01:19:44 Fostering Independence 01:24:36 Teaching Children Self-Reliance 01:30:33 The Value Of Discipline 01:37:56 The Pressure Parents Experience 01:41:52 Independence Vs Dependence 01:50:46 The Fear Of Patterns Repeating Episode Resources: https://www.goodinside.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/ https://www.facebook.com/drbeckyatgoodinside https://www.youtube.com/@goodinside https://www.linkedin.com/company/goodinside/ https://x.com/goodinside https://x.com/goodinside https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty https://www.facebook.com/jayshetty/ https://x.com/jayshetty https://www.linkedin.com/in/shettyjay/ https://www.youtube.com/@JayShettyPodcast http://jayshetty.me